Nerd Rage

That’s what it’s called when book lovers are up in arms about the fact that a movie didn’t exactly mirror the book it’s BASED on.

It’s something that I’ve not personally dealt with but have consequently dealt with most of my 28 years due to the book lovers in my life. Between my sisters, friends and boyfriend I’ve seen a lot of nerd rage. Being the one that never read books I never had an issue with the movies. I first read the Hunger Games series after seeing the first two movies. I have to admit, when I read the books I pictured the characters that were portrayed in the movies so I knew that I wasn’t coming close to experiencing what all the nerds were experiencing when the nerd rage came out.

After completing the Hunger Games I moved on to Divergent. I loved the series and couldn’t wait for the movies to come out. I finally got around to watching it last night. Surprise. Surprise. I don’t have nerd rage about it. That’s not to say that there weren’t parts of the story changed or that the casting of some characters didn’t fit what I had imagined, but I went into it logically knowing that there is no way that everything that happened in a 500 page book was going to fit into a two hour movie. When you can’t include everything some things have to be altered for flow of the storyline.

Andy and I both commented on some of the characters not being what we had imagined. Some of the characters we agreed upon, but others we both pictured differently from one another. As we discussed this I realized that the main issue the nerd ragers have is that they don’t see outside the bubble of their own imagination. While two readers/viewers might agree that the casting for a certain character is wrong if the characters were recast to fit the ideas of the first person the second person would still not agree with the casting because it was not what his or her imagination had conjured up.

That’s the beauty of imagination. We can make people and places look the way we want them to look. It’s part of what gives us our individuality.

You’ll notice that earlier when I mention a movie being based on a book that I put based in all caps. The movies don’t claim to be the book.  There’s a little thing called artistic freedom that occurs when a movie is based on something else. It does not have to be a carbon copy. For me as long as the core of the story is still intact I will not be upset by the differences between a book and a movie.

So for all you nerd ragers out there, next time you go to watch a movie based on a book keep it together when it doesn’t fit your imagination. It’s not the end of the world.

Having a Dog

When I was growing up my family had a Black Lab-Chow mix dog. Her name was Bridgette. (Good choice in keeping with the B-names, right? Bethany, Brittany and Bridgette. Fun and semi-related story: when she was a puppy we used to put her in the basement when we left the house to prevent her from destroying things. On one occasion my mother and I left the house early in the morning so she stuck her head in the bedroom and told my stepdad that Bridgette was upstairs in bed and Brittany, my sister, was in the basement. Their names were interchanged regularly.)

Bridgette as a pup.

Bridgette as a pup.

Anywho, I loved that dog. She had been a stray that showed up at our house while my stepdad was out of town on a business trip. I immediately requested that we keep her. My mom told us that if she was still around when my stepdad returned we could ask him. Then as she was leaving for work she said, “Don’t feed her.” When mom was safely out of sight my sister and I hit the fridge for some lunch meat. Needless to say, she stayed, and it didn’t take much convincing to get my stepdad to agree on keeping her.

I missed her a lot when I went away to college. She ended up with hip dysplasia, which is fairly common in Labs. One day when I was in chiropractic school I got a call from my mom telling me that they were having to put her down. She could no longer get up and it was painful for them to even lift her to get her to the vet’s office. I still have a picture of her on my dresser. Sometimes when I return to my parents house I still expect to find her waiting at the door to greet me.

One of last photos of Bridgette.

One of last photos of Bridgette.

She’s been gone for almost 3 years now. During that time I have had several friends offer to help me find a new dog. Unfortunately my living situation has not allowed for that so I spend time with other people’s dogs. Luckily, when I started dating my boyfriend I also gained a dog, Sally. I like to consider myself part owner (Sorry, Andy. She loves me too). In my time without a dog I had forgotten about all the hard parts of having a dog like cleaning up their messes and having to plan activities around their ability to control their bladder. But the negative aspects to owning a dog can never outweigh the positive ones. Here are 3 things I had missed about having a dog.

1. The Welcome. Whether you’re gone 4 minutes or 4 weeks the response is the same. They are excited to see you. Sometimes I feel like Sally is more excited to see me than Andy. Of course, that would be weird if he greeted me by barking at the door and shaking his tail so hard he was about to fall over.



2. The Comfort. When you’re down dogs can tell, and they know just how to snuggle up to you to let you know you’re loved. They’ll sit for hours with their chin on your lap because there’s nowhere else they’d rather be.

3. The Playfulness. Sally loves to wrestle and she’s pretty much always up for a game of tug-of-war with her rope. Even when Bridgette was older she would sometimes have a burst of energy and take off running through the house making figure eights around the dining room table. I admire their ability to drop everything and have a little fun.

Do you own a dog?  If so, what do you love most about him or her?

Do You Know About Leading?

There’s a great movie called Big Fish.  It’s about an older gentleman named Edward Bloom that tells a lot of “big fish” stories about his lifetime.  You should watch it.  Anyway, there’s a scene where his son Will is trying to confront him about some of it.  It goes as follows:

Albert Finney in Big Fish

Albert Finney in Big Fish

Will: You know about icebergs, dad?

Edward: Do I? I saw an iceberg once.  They were hauling it down to Texas for drinking water.  They didn’t count on there being an elephant frozen inside.  The wooly kind.  A mammoth.

Will: Dad!

Edward: What?

Will: I’m trying to make a metaphor here.

Edward: Well you shouldn’t have started with a question, because most people want to answer questions.  You should’ve started with, “The thing about icebergs is.”

Will: Ok, Ok, Ok.  The thing about icebergs is…

After I wrote this post I realized that I wasn’t really asking you a question.  I was actually just telling you about my experience.  So let me start again.

The thing about leading is…

It’s Hard.

Really hard.

Sometimes it’s hard because you have to be the responsible one when something goes wrong.  If a patient is unhappy with a portion of their care in my office, I am the one held responsible because I am the doctor.  I am responsible even if the problem is with a portion of the care I do not actively perform. As the business owner, when the air conditioner quits on the hottest day of the summer, I am the one responsible for making sure it gets fixed (read: calling Gordon and Grandpa to come the rescue).

Sometimes it’s hard because you have to make moral choices that are unpopular.  As a leader for Campus Crusade for Christ on my campus, I was responsible for bringing in speakers.  Some speakers that were offered up to me as choices by friends and classmates were more bent on the political message they were trying to send than that of a spiritual message.  It was hard, but I had to tell a few friends no.

Sometimes it’s hard because it’s lonely.  I have had several leadership positions in my lifetime.  I started as a club leader in high school for numerous organizations then became a leader in Student Government Association and Campus Crusade for Christ in college.  In chiropractic school I was a part of the Student Doctor’s Council and I was a part of some improvements in the clinic credit system. I am now a business owner, and I am just finishing up a position as a Sunday school teacher in my church.

Of all the positions I have held, leading other Christians is absolutely the hardest job.  Sometimes you feel like no one else cares.  I am sadly leaving my post as a young adult Sunday school teacher due to a lack of interest.  It’s  hard to be a leader when those you are leading don’t care.  I have progressively become more and more frustrated at the apathy of Christians in my generation.  Not just an apathy of the church, but an apathy toward every thing that’s important in life.  People will get into fiery arguments about books, television, movies and music, but they could care less about tending to the needs of the hurting. My arguments for involvement seem to fall on deaf ears.

I won’t give up leading in the church.  Even though it’s the hardest job I’ve ever had, it can also be the most rewarding.  My only hope is that the apathy of Christians soon turns to a burning passion and I pray that my pastor sees enough of us that care that he doesn’t burnout by the same premise.

“A Dweam Wifin a Dweam”

“Mawage, that bwessed awangement, that dweam wifin a dweam.” One of my favorite scenes from The Princess Bride movie is Princess Buttercup and Prince Humperdinck’s wedding. When the Impressive Clergyman tries to bestow some marital wisdom on the couple he speaks of a dream within a dream, inception, if you will.

The Impressive Clergyman

The Impressive Clergyman

My favorite thing about this book was that much like the “dweam wifin a dweam,” this was a story within a story. *WARNING* If you haven’t read the book or seen the movie and plan to you might not want read any further to avoid any spoilers.

The book is written by William Goldman as though it is an abridgment of a long historical book by S. Morgenstern. Goldman claims to have fallen in love with the original as a child when his father read it to him. As an adult he realizes that his father had left out all the boring parts. He, in turn, does the same to abridge the book for his readers. Throughout the book he stops and interjects his own comical thoughts claiming to have edited out 44 or so pages of unneeded descriptions of parties or packing or foliage.

I must admit, at first I was convinced that all this was true, but as the story progressed the interjections became more and more far fetched. At the end of the book was the first chapter of a fictitious sequel that Goldman supposedly wanted to abridge, but unfortunately lost the job to Steven King.

In my opinion, Goldman wrote a brilliant story. I’m glad this was the book I chose to start with. I love it and I plan to own the physical book. Reading this gave me a whole new respect for the story.

One last disclaimer, the proximity of this post to the last would make it seem as though I read this book within a few days. I actually started it last year. Don’t get your hopes to high that I came flying out of the gate to become a better reader. Hopefully I’ll be able to shorten the time it takes between books, but I don’t make any promises.

New Year’s Goals

I don’t know that I’ve ever made a New Year’s Resolution so I don’t think I’ll say I’m making one this year.  I do, however, have a couple goals for the year.  The first goal is to become a better reader.

I have been surrounded in life by people who love to read, and I have never been that kind of person.  My mom and sisters are big readers, my best friend in undergrad is now a librarian and my boyfriend’s compilation of read titles makes my reading skills look embarrassing.  For as long as I can remember my reading comprehension skills have not been the greatest.  I can read 15 pages of a book and realize that I have no idea what I’ve just read.  So I go back and start again and it makes reading a book a long process.  Even so, I know that reading is good for the brain, and someday I want to encourage my children to read.  Just as I don’t ask my patients to do anything that I haven’t tried first, I don’t expect to ask my children to do something I’m not also willing to do.  The best way to get better at anything is to practice.  So I’ve decided to spend more time reading.  To start I’m going to read The Princess Bride.  It is one of my favorite movies so I thought I’d start there.  I have a few books that I’ve decided I’d like to read this year, but I’m open to suggestions if anyone has any they would like to offer.  I don’t really know what kind of books I even like so I’m open to try about anything. My boyfriend likes reading as a stress reliever.  At this point I can’t say it’s a stress reliever for me, but I know what is.  When I shared my last post I realized how much I miss blogging on a regular basis.

That is my second goal for the year.  I want to spend some more time writing here.  It’s relaxing and it’s my happy place.  Some days the posts will be long.  Some days the posts will be short.  Some will be insightful, some will be funny, and some will be just plain ridiculous.  I think in order to keep myself motivated on my first goal I will have some posts about what I read.  I’m not going to tell you that there will be a post every month about a book.  It will likely take me longer to read most books than that, but I will do so when I finish a book.

So those are my New Year’s goals.  Feel free to share any reading suggestions with me.  Please remember that I’m “a beginner” so a 4000 page book might be a little overwhelming to me.

2013 Quotes Year in Review

I noticed recently that a few friends posted their 2013 Year in Review on Facebook.  I checked mine out but I doubt anyone else really cares to see my year in review.  Instead I decided to have my own Quotes Year in Review.  I compiled my top 25 favorite quotes recorded in the Quote Book for the year.  Some of them are funny if you know the context behind them.  Most are funny without context at all. They are listed in no particular order and I have withheld the names of the individuals that uttered these sayings to protect their privacy. So without further ado here are the top 25 quotes I recorded in 2013.

1. Behoove.  I’ve never used that word in public.

2. Nothing says I love you like a close-out.

3. I like it better when you were little and quiet.

4. They have all new anatomically correct clocks.

5. The extra ham is in the bathroom.

6. Person A: Who was the 1st woman recorded in the Bible to wear makeup?                          Person B: Mary Kay of Nazareth?

7. I’d rather sing in front of the Pope than speak in front of the church.

8. Nothing hard ever comes easy.

9. Better is better.

10. I was a lot better at this when no one was playing with me.

11. Not too many people are going into the nun business anymore.

12. Germans are serious about their beer and chocolate…and hate crimes.

13. This really does matter.  It’s not like math.

14. Nothing ruins the smell of a car like fear and poop.

15. It’s so hard not to tell your children to shut-up when you’re tired.

16. Person A: I could care less about the post-season.                                                                 Person B: Spoken like a true Cubs fan.

17. You can quit when Bob Johnson is puttin’ a tie on you.

18. Glitter is like the Herpes of the arts and crafts world.

19. My milk doesn’t get soggy.

20. I got a charlie horse ringing my bell.

21. Santa? I mean, grandpa?

22. If you didn’t put it in my belly don’t touch it.

23. Shh. This is my show.

24. Sorry I’m late.  My squirrel got loose and I had to chase it down.

25. Person A: Have a drink for me on your trip.                                                                           Person B: A cocktail?                                                                                                           Person A: Well, yeah.  I can drink lemonade at home.

Thanksgiving 365: 341 – 365

341. Candles.  We lost power for a while a few nights back when the storms were going through.  Just as I was about to step into the shower the room went black. There’s nothing like a candle lit shower.

342. Our church worship team. We just mesh really well and I love that even practice is used to really praise God.  Getting together with them is something I look forward to each week.

343. Relaxation methods. I have a terrible time when it comes to sleeping.  I lay down and my mind runs.  If I ran as much as my mind I’d be a marathoner.  One thing I’ve found that helps is using relaxation techniques that force me to focus on relaxing my physical being so I’m not thinking about everything else which allows me to fall asleep.

344. Water filters. We may not have the worst tasting water, but it’s definitely not the best tasting water.  I drink a lot of it so I’m very thankful for my water filter.

345. Ghirardelli Peppermint Bark. It might be the one treat that I look forward to the most at Christmas time.  I received some as a gift this past Christmas and I’m rationing them.

346. Rehab exercises. I’ve had shoulder problems since an injury in high school.  I didn’t seek any treatment at the time, but that was back when participation in sports was more important to me than the long-term effects not treating were going to have on me.  I didn’t seek treatment for it until I was in chiropractic school when it became a major problem again.  It hadn’t bothered me since I stopped throwing shot put, but once I started adjusting people on a regular basis I was getting shooting pains in my arm.  I had to take care of it now.  It threatened my livelihood.  I sought treatment from a chiropractor who specializes in sports injuries and I’m glad I did.  Not only did it improve my shoulder, but it also created a great friendship.  She adjusted me and performed muscle work, but part of the treatment was my responsibility.  I had to perform the rehab exercises she gave me.  It was determined that my past injury was a small tear in my rotator cuff; not enough to warrant surgery, but enough that if I didn’t rehab the muscle it would never be right.  If I don’t keep the appropriate muscles strengthened it puts strain on the muscle that was injured.  So even though I don’t always feel the pain I know that it could come back so I keep doing my exercises and appreciating that I am able to use my arm everyday.

347. Water pillows. I was skeptical at first.  How could a pillow with water in it be that special?  I needed a new pillow and didn’t want to go buy one so I used the last one that was left in stock in my office that had been included in the sale of the business.  It took me a few days, but once I found the right amount of water to suit my needs I was converted.  I used to wake up in the night and mash my pillow around trying to get comfortable.  I never do that now.  I’m still amazed that it works as well as it does, but I can’t deny the results I get and others have gotten with them.  Needless to say, I restocked.

348. Scriptures that speak your core. I was recently invited to be a part of an encouraging scripture exchange.  You emailed the scripture that you go to in times of need to someone else in hopes that it will encourage them.  The two scriptures that I shared are as follows:

Romans 8:26 – Likewise the Spirit helps us in our weakness.  For we do not know what to pray for as we ought, but the Spirit himself intercedes for us with groanings too deep for words.

Psalm 46:1 – God is our refuge and strength, an ever-present help in trouble.

These two scriptures can bring me up in situations that seem way too big for me.  I love the idea that even when I’m speechless the Spirit will pray for me.

349. Upward Basketball. It put’s two great things together: God and basketball; in that order.  My favorite games to watch are the 1st and 2nd graders. Sometimes that make awesome plays, and sometimes their just comical.

350. The imagination of kids. I recently attended the 1st birthday party of my cousin’s daughter.  There were a handful of other children there as well.  One particular little boy had come in wearing his boots and cowboy hat.  Later, he had taken someone’s cane and was riding it like a stick horse.  It definitely provided some added entertainment.

351. Super Bowl parties. My family has a Super Bowl party every year.  We mostly go for the food, commercials and fellowship, but occasionally we’ll watch the game.

352. My Neu Year calendar. I won it over on my friend Julie’s blog which I’ve linked to numerous times, but hey, what’s one more.  It’s helping me keep track of loans and bills and various other financial benchmarks.

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353. Biofreeze. When I’m training hard this stuff gets me through the next day.

354. My Sunday school class. They’re not the biggest talkers in the world.  It was like pulling teeth to get them to interact in the beginning.  I’m no dentist, but they’re starting to come around and their getting excited about seeing our class grow and serving the Lord.  Today we actually decided to sponsor a child through Compassion International.  We can’t wait to support this beautiful girl from Columbia.  We look forward to pouring into Sara’s life and seeing the ways that God will bless her.

355. Twitter. I’m not exactly the most Twitter-savvy.  I’m still working on it, but I have found that it’s a great way to keep up with the stuff I love, like Cardinals baseball, my favorite music and trends in chiropractic.  It’s also become a really great marketing tool for my business. If you want to follow me personally: @BMeeksDC or professionally: @FFChiroClinic.

356. Fiction. Sometimes you just need to get away from real life.

357. Unexpected text messages. I love hearing from friends unexpectedly.  Those texts always seem to come at the right time.

358. Things to look forward to. I kind of miss living in the city and hanging out with all my chiropractor friends.  I love being home closer to my family, but a lot of the people that I hung out with before I left for school have moved elsewhere.  I feel like I’ve started kindergarten all over again.  I don’t really like having to make new friends.  I haven’t done much of that over the last year and I’m beginning to feel like a recluse.  I do have two events coming up this year that I have to head south to attend.  So I’m looking forward to getting away for a little relaxation time and and hanging out with some old friends.

359. A new treadmill. I mentioned to my step-mom that I was in the market for a treadmill and she offered me hers.  She just had to have it and then it became a close rack.  I’m looking forward to having it because I don’t like running in the cold, and if this summer is anything like last summer I will also not like running outside then either.  I have an aversion to running in weather that you can bake cakes in.

360. The Weekly Sticky. This is a tool that I use to help educate people about chiropractic.  This week’s sticky was about football.

361. My new vacuum. I think it’s safe to say the the majority of people don’t get excited about vacuums.  I am not the majority of people.  I asked for it for Christmas, and Santa (my mom) delivered.  It’s so much better the ones I had in the office before.  I only have to cover a section of carpet once to pick everything up.

362. I’m my own boss. There are days that this has it’s drawbacks. The day the air conditioner went out, for instance, was not a good day to be in charge. However, most days I am grateful that I can do things the way I want.

363. A network of doctors. I keep in touch with several of my friends from chiropractic school and we have become a sounding board for each other.  If there’s ever a condition we’re not sure about or something isn’t working the way it should we send out group texts and everyone throws in some ideas.  It’s a great resource to have.

364. Snow. I love that it makes everything look clean.  Secondarily, and I’m almost ashamed to admit it, snow means people will be shoveling out their driveways.  Most people don’t use the best form and that leads them to my office.  The two busiest weeks of my practice were the two week following the blizzard.  (How’s that for a chiropractor’s confession.) It’s bad, I know, but it could not have come at a better time for me financially.  I was wondering how I was going to pay all the bills, but God provides.

365. All of you.  I’m thankful for all of you who have stuck around.  You’ve put up with ridiculously long posts and even longer hiatuses between posts.  I looked back at all that I have been thankful for.  Some of the posts made me laugh and some made me cry. All in all, I’m glad I took on this adventure, and I’m glad you came along with me.

That’s the end of the Thanksgiving 365 series, but don’t be mistaken it’s not the end of my thankfulness.  Today I saw a post on Facebook from Operation Christmas Child.  It read, “No matter how good or bad you think life is, wake up each day and be thankful for life. Someone somewhere else is fighting to survive.”